Monday, September 28, 2009

Build Your Self-Esteem, a Starter Guide to Self-Improvement

So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won't even remember. Don't let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?

Dart Pin #1: Negative Work Environment
Beware of "dog eat dog" theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Stay out of this; it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.

Dart Pin #2: Bulldozers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizer's, etc, all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.

Dart Pin #3: You can't be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.

Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It's okay to cry and say "ouch!" when we experience pain. But don't let pain transform itself into fear. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Don't wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world.

Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioural traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. God wouldn't come down from heaven and tell you - "George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self."

In life, it's hard to stay tough especially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. Life's options give us arrays of more options. Armour or Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behaviour and our way of thinking.

Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. It's like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.

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